My daughter Brittany and I have travelled a long health care journey. It started in 2012 and although life is not perfect , it’s one we can manage now. However one of the biggest changes, her ability to carry a serious conversation. I use to ask her questions and she couldn’t be bothered to answer me. She would always respond “Mom I don’t want to talk about this now”. However recently we have had some excellent open discussions, some of which I shared with you earlier. This morning was an interesting conversation to say the least.

I asked Brittany why she hates new technology, waiting for her to blame it on social bullies or too many weird videos. Nope! She found it to be too much thinking and concentrating. It was too much on the brain. She never knew how to respond to friends and always got friend requests from people she didn’t know.

I then asked her what she did when she wasn’t partying back in the day. She explained that her and her boyfriend went out for an occasional walk or just stayed in his room and chatted. That’s when I realized there’s a pattern. It’s like she’s stuck in the past and has no interest in change. I can understand that change can be scary but sometimes it’s necessary to move forward.

Her life sounds very familiar to how she lives it now. If she had her way, I would be in her room all day. She struggles to be alone but refuses any TikTok, You Tube shorts or face book. In the past she would listen to music and paint, draw, practice guitar or do origami’s. The problem is, it’s always in her room. I made a suggestion that she put together an art kit for Kailani’s next visit. She agreed as long as I pulled out all the crafts. That defeats the whole be creative idea but I understand her cluttered mind.

I’m on a mission

Today I am on a mission to help Brittany feel comfortable outside her room. She’s rarely left alone and always waits for someone to help her get through the day. The last few months she has lacked motivation to try any new or past activities.

We need to make a few changes around the house starting with her arts and crafts. Their scattered everywhere not for lack of trying. Brittany is a grab and drop kind a girl. She grabs what she needs and drops it anywhere when she’s done. Constantly forgets where her money is, winning tickets and pre rolls. Everything is a mess in her brain and I know she could never handle to much at once.

This week I will be gathering up all her arts and crafts from almost every room in the house and organizing them. I’ll clear her dresser and have one spot for all her important items. Then I plan on cleaning out the back yard and setting up the game table. Once her room is clear hopefully she will be motivated to try new activities. The yard will be ready for friends to join us for some summer fun. She will no longer have to spend several minutes sometimes hours searching for items she hid on herself to avoid temptation. I’ll keep you posted in my upcoming blogs.

Thank you for your ongoing support

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